I always felt adrift in queer conferences talking about coming-out stories as a multiracial Indonesian nonbinary/queer person. With other queer people from the AAPI community, we often were told our coming out stories were "too negative" and "tired-out" tropes of non-acceptance. It made us feel we had to choose-- between being a part of our cultures/traditions or being queer. For many of us, that's just not the truth. You can be both queer and AAPI. Intersection doesn't end at acceptance-- it begins with listening. And I want people to feel less alone--coming out is different for all of us.